Preparation of Marriage is central to the meaning of the Church. You are beginning a new call in the Body of Christ through your commitment in Christian Marriage. Our program of premarital preparation is designed to give you the best in guidance and support.
- If you are already civilly married, meet with the pastor.
- If you are not married, meet with the pastor at least six months before you would like to get married. This should be done before any other arrangements are made. He will gather initial information and guide you to the next step. You are required to take a marriage inventory and attend one of the following: a Pre-Cana or marriage as covenant at the Catholic Pastoral Center.
- Confirm the date for your wedding with the pastor to determine his availability.
Normally, the pastor witnesses marriages during Mass and a deacon witnesses marriages outside of Mass. Should you have a friend who is a priest or deacon, he is certainly welcome to preside at your wedding, provided he has the necessary permission and delegation from St. Mary pastor.
- Confirm the date with the Parish Office (405-282-4239) to assure church availability.
The rehearsal will usually take place the afternoon or evening before the wedding and all people taking an active part in the ceremony should attend.
Obtain a new Baptismal Certificate (following your first meeting with the pastor) from the parish where you were baptized — not an old family copy, but a new one issued just for your marriage. Once you are married, we will send notice to your church of baptism. They will make entry into your Baptismal Register there and a notation of your marriage will appear on all subsequently issued copies of your Baptismal Certificate.
Jesus teaches that a valid marriage can only be ended by death, so if one of you has a sacramental previous marriage and a still-living former spouse, you will need to show that your previous attempt at marriage was invalid, lacked something necessary for validity. The process of doing this is called seeking an annulment of that marriage. If one of you has a previous marriage that ended in divorce, you should discuss this with the priest/deacon at your very first meeting. Annulments take time and you cannot be married in the Church until any needed annulments are obtained and finalized.